We tend to get really fixated on the idea of losing our virginity, but for some guys, their focus on it borders on obsession. Some men (and a few women) who have never had sex despite all efforts describe themselves as “incel,” which stands for involuntary celibacy. That would be all well and good on its own if the incel subculture wasn’t putting forth terrible ideas about sex, dating, relationships and women. Some incels have even taken their frustration with never having had sex so far, that real people end up getting hurt or even killed.
Consider the case of Elliot Rodger, a 22-year-old who went on a shooting rampage and killed six people because he’d never had sex. Not only did the incel subculture sympathize with what he’d done and insist he hadn’t done anything wrong, they implied that Rodger couldn’t be a part of their group anyway, not because he killed people, but because he was conventionally attractive and could have gotten laid if he wanted to. That’s not even scratching the surface here. Here’s what you need to know about the incel subculture.
The incel subculture is a support group. Many men who are involved with the incel community aren’t even in it for sex, they’re just lamenting the fact that they don’t feel that they have any connections. Reddit users H77b had this to say about that: “In my entire life I’ve never connected with someone. Not a friend, nor any woman. No one in class knew my name or anything about me and now in college I remain in isolation.”
However, the subculture is ridiculously dark. One poster on love-shy.com who was lamenting his situation took his frustration to a higher level. “I think if I do end up going on a mass shooting spree it will be due to the mental damage/stress from being isolated from meaningful human contact for too long. If/when that ever happens, can I really be blamed for murder if I’ve lost my mental faculties to judge right from wrong?”